10 Ways to Know If an Online Dater is Desperate
Geplaatst op 19-06-2024
Categorie: Lifestyle
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You know the type: overly eager to please, calls you way too soon after the first date, and constantly asks you where the relationship is going, even though you’ve only been together for a short time. Desperate daters are not bad people, but they aren’t long-term relationship material, either; they’re typically willing to be with just about anyone who fits a loose set of requirements just to escape the lonely throes of singledom, so it’s doubtful that a desperate dater is actually interested in YOU as a person. For them, you’re just a warm body.
Are you worried that the man you’re seeing is only with you because he is desperate for a mate? Here are 10 ways to know for sure.
#1 Sleeps with You Right Away
Is he willing to jump in bed with you just to please you? Then he’s probably desperate enough to give it up to anyone who he thinks will commit to being in a relationship with him. Just imagine the long list of women he slept with because he thought that they were “the one.” Doesn’t that give you the chills?
#2 Lied in His Online Dating Profile
If he said that he was six foot two and has a “toned body” in his profile, but you met him in person and discovered that he is actually four foot seven and 190 pounds, beware. He was willing to lie about his appearance to dupe you into meeting him, so there’s no telling what else he could be lying about.
#3 Assumes the Same Hobbies and Interests as You
You’re into hip hop dance. All of a sudden he is taking hip hop dance classes three times a week. You like to play golf. He told you on the first date that he hates sports, but he just bought a new set of golf clubs and invited himself to go along with you on the weekends. If the man you’re dating doesn’t have his own interests and assumes the same hobbies and interests as you, he’s probably does all the same things as you to please you and make you believe that you two are meant to be.
#4 His Entire Life Is Planned Out
He has to be married by 30 and have a child by 32. He already knows what he is going to name his children and what color the curtains will be in the new house you buy together.
If he’s already planned out your entire life together and you’ve only hung out with him twice, feel free to be freaked out. He’s spent practically his entire life mulling over every detail of her life plan, and it’s complete; the only part that’s missing is the woman! Are you willing to fill in that not-so-coveted slot?
#5 Puts His Life on Hold Just to Be with You
You’re perfectly right to feel weirded out because a guy you met on an online dating site asked you to move in after just one week of chatting with each other. That’s not love… that’s desperation at its finest. And that is an extreme example. Here are some other red flags to watch out for: he ditches his friends to hang with you 24/7, tells you he’s willing to drop his career and move across the country to be with you, or neglects his kids because she can’t stand being away from you for even one minute.
#6 Always Available
If you call him on a Friday night and ask him out on a date that very night, does he reply with an eager, “Yes!”? Then he’s desperate. Any man who doesn’t have plans on a Friday night because he is sitting by the phone and biting her fingernails, waiting for you to call, or who has plans with friends but drops them the moment you ask him out is desperate. A self-respecting man would decline a last-minute date offer from a woman because it’s rude for her to expect him to be available whenever she’s in the mood to see him.
#7 Always Needs Reassurance
Whether he fishes for compliments non-stop or asks you where the relationship is going after just a few dates, don’t waste your time with an insecure man who always needs reassurance. After telling him, “Yes, you are attractive” for the umpteenth time or being forced to promise him that you have no plans to dump him every time you go out on a casual date, you’ll be exhausted. Why not just get out now, when the fallout will be minimal?
#8 Tells You he Loves You after Just a Couple of Weeks
Your third dinner date together is not the time or place to slip in ye olde “L” word. True love takes time to blossom, so any guy who’s desperate to tell you that he loves you is not actually in love with you; he is desperate to seal the deal and get you to commit to her because he can’t wait for the relationship to take its own course. He wants the ring on her finger, like, yesterday.
#9 Treats His Pets Like Children
Now, don’t get me wrong… not all men who have pets are desperate to get married and have children. Some men simply love animals. But if you notice that a man treats his pets like children and buys them lots of unnecessary toys, clothes, and accessories, run fast in the other direction. He only wants to be with you because he would like your assistance in replacing that poodle with a live, gurgling infant.
#10 Agrees with Everything You Say
It’s awesome to meet someone who likes the same things as you do and shares similar viewpoints, but a man who always nods in agreement with what you say, no matter how controversial the topic, is nothing but a pushover. She’ll say whatever he thinks you want to hear to convince you that you are like two peas in a pod, even if it’s far from the truth. Remember: you can only have a fulfilling relationship with a man who has hisown opinions and identity. If you date a desperate pushover, you never know when his true personality will rear its ugly head.